Love yourself, then your life, then you can allow others in

James DeLuccia
5 min readDec 30, 2020

This isn’t about romance, it can be for some, but this is instead about creating the most happiness in your life. Love is the means — it is the single factor for all successful entrepreneurs, writers, and the most influential people in our history. Love is how we pull ourselves out of depression, toxic relationships, bad households, and any number of negative life events.

This is something you can attain without anyone’s permission or effort — you are in control, and the only guardian at the gate. Adopt these principles to your life to avoid the greatest tragedy of life — one lacking love for ourselves and what we create.

Love yourself — first principle

Is there any world where one can love another if they themselves don’t like / love themselves? More to the point — those who haven’t accepted and embraced themselves may still be wearing masks over their true identity too!

Ultimately to love yourself means to love your own mind, body, and soul wholly. To embrace your past actions, own the outcomes, and to stand present today. A mask upon your identity is a lie. A lie to yourself, your soul, and those who seek to love you. Masks are another’s judgement, criticism, standards, culture, and mannerisms. These are what you’ve adopted, but not you.

To love yourself, you must unfold yourself and love that person. Only then can you be happy — alone or with others.

Love your life — second principle

You made the world you stand in today. The shoes you wear; the shirts you bought; the crowd you surround yourself, and more! If something in your life is painful — remove it! As you would a splinter in your foot, but instead many allow these pains to stack. (Such misery becomes familiar and accepted — for instance, why keep your ex-girlfriend/husband/etc’s stuff in your new home if it causes pain? Or frequent the same restaurant with the same negative and poisonous environment that led to your last regret?)

To love your life doesn’t mean just tolerate what you have. Instead it is the opposite, to love your life you must actually change things. Examples of personal actions that I have pursued and have seen 1,000s more…

James DeLuccia

Technologist, Researcher, Artist, Executive, Father, Author, Inventor, Speaker, and CrossFit...